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Take the Test -- Find out if the Situation You are in is an abusive One

You may Be a victim of abuse if you:

are afraid of your partner, been threatened with physical harm, loss of your children, or denied access to financial resources.

have been accused unjustly and continually of having affairs or with flirting.

been humiliated in public, called derogatory names, continually criticized.

cannot express your opinions or feelings without being afraid of your partner's reactions.

have to ask your partner for permission to see family or friends or spend money on yourself.

been locked out of the house or abandoned in dangerous places.

been subjected to destruction of valued property or pets.

been denied affection as punishment or if your children have been abused to punish you.

constantly manipulate yourself, your children and your environment in order to make things "just so" for your partner.

try and try to please your partner only to be criticized again.

sometimes feel like you're living with Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde.

you are confused about the difference in the way your partner views the relationship and the way you see it.

are beginning to believe all the terrible things your partner says about you and accuses you of. Sometimes you're not sure what is real anymore - think you're going crazy.

You are still a victim even if:

You are not legally married to your abusive partner.
You are in a lesbian relationship with someone who abuses you.
You have formally or legally ended your relationship but your ex-partner continues to behave in an abusive manner towards you.
You are not living with your partner but he or she does abuse you emotionally or physically.

Once you have faced the truth of your victimization, you can begin to make changes in your perception of yourself and in the way you live. Forgive yourself for past events and behaviors which produced guilt and self blame. Begin thinking of yourself kindly and remind yourself that you have been doing the best you could.

Remember:

You are not to blame for being beaten and abused.
You are not causing your partner's abusive behavior.
You do not like being abused and do not have to take it.
You can decide what is best for you.
You can make changes in your life in order to be healthy and safe.

You are a worthwhile person and as a human being and as a partner, you have the right to be treated with respect and love.

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